Your self identity is incredibly important for two main reasons.
One, it’s how people will understand how to interact with you and two, it’s how you will feel about yourself.
Richard Feynman has a great quote “you must not fool anyone, and you are the easiest person to fool.” It’s so easy to put on an act and create a fake identity to please others, but then you are really only lying to yourself.
Likewise, you can completely ignore the community of people around you and they will naturally fade from you.
In reality, you want to be true to yourself, create good internal habits and systems, and generally be a kind person.
We all know what things we should be doing - eating healthy, exercising, socializing, reading, writing, learning new skills, etc.
- but we all create random excuses in our head as to why we can’t do them all.
More importantly, we get stuck in trying to justify our current bad habits internally while putting on an external show full of fantasies.
It really just comes down to truly BEING the type of person you want to be around, not just acting like it.
Ask yourself, who are you? If you can’t come up with an answer that you are proud of, then you have to tackle some demons of your own whether be around your professional career, motivations, health, or family related.
Staying true to yourself and carefully crafting your self-identity is super important because you won’t be stuck in a loop of trying to impress people around you, and you will internally be at peace with yourself.